• null_dot@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    11·
    3 hours ago

    I’ve never heard the phrase swings and roundabouts used this way.

    Usually it means two things are similar so you don’t really have strong feelings either way.

  • andybytes@programming.devEnglish
    102·
    4 hours ago

    You get what you give. Don’t become the monster. A real class act would just dangle it in front of them and then just approve it anyways. Like bitch I’m over it, I don’t give a fuck. You’re just a dumb ass speed bump.

    • Goltbrook@lemm.eeEnglish
      3·
      27 minutes ago

      Maybe the mortgage application was just not within approval guidelines. It is not like a bank clerk gets to arbitrarily decide by personal sympathy.

      • BigPotato@lemmy.worldEnglish
        31·
        2 hours ago

        Why not both? Give people who deserve it grace and be the bigger person and burn those that don’t to the ground.

        Of course, if you find out that they did deserve grace later, you’ll need to destroy the biggest monster of all, yourself.

      • throwawayacc0430@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        2·
        52 minutes ago

        That’s very amazing memory. I keep forgeting shit all the time. I sometimes forget the names of a characters of a TV show that I’ve been binge watching for the past few hours.

      • Echo Dot@feddit.ukEnglish
        3·
        2 hours ago

        I only remember the names of two teachers.

        The one that set fire to the science classroom, and thus became a legend. And the utterly horrible one that hated kids and should not have been allowed to become a teacher.

        All the others have just faded into the background because they were neither fun nor memorable.

    • GreenKnight23@lemmy.worldEnglish
      31·
      5 hours ago

      had a teacher traumatize and humiliate me for four years.

      I contemplated suicide at 12 years old.

      Luckily I found strength in my spite and hatred for her to push forward.

      last I heard, her husband died of colon cancer, she lost the farm and her house, and her only son turned out to be gay (they were “Christians”).

      I still remember her nasty mustache and shitty attitude, and will always remember her.

      I’m doing good in my life, better than her.

      there’s only one other person who I hate more and I’m eagerly waiting to toast to their deaths.

      they are literally the only people I could never forgive.

      before you pass judgment ask yourself this, "who tells a bullied overweight 12 year old who is clearly having home problems that they need to ‘lose some weight’ and they won’t ‘be so fat’. ‘who knows, you might not be such a loser like your father.’

      • boonhet@lemm.eeEnglish
        1·
        3 minutes ago

        There’s been exactly one school shooting in my country. Teacher bullied a kid whose father was a strict army man. Gave him worse grades on purpose knowing he’d have to run 20 km home for it, etc. So one day he went to school with a gun and shot that one teacher and nobody else. So that’s what a shitty teacher (and a shitty father) can do to a child.

        Wasn’t my hometown but I knew people who went to the same school at the same time. Nobody condoned the murder, but people did see where he was coming from.

        • ScrotusMaximus@lemm.eeEnglish
          161·
          4 hours ago

          we didn’t hear the part about how that teacher lost the farm due to an elaborate revenge plot where they gave the husband colon cancer and seduced the son

    • andybytes@programming.devEnglish
      6·
      4 hours ago

      Oh my god, yes. Your best victory is the victory of succeeding at something and moving the fuck on with your life if you can. People are shitty. Our environment is shitty. It is what it is. Keep trucking. I am a product of my environment, but I can control some of it. In my opinion, chasing your goals, time and distance is a solution for all social ills. Well maybe not all but I mean shit you gotta try

    • wise_pancake@lemmy.caEnglish
      822·
      12 hours ago

      We don’t know that was why they denied it, this could be shadenfreud (sp?) because they would be denied regardless.

      At least I choose to believe that, because I can’t imagine being petty enough to do that.

    • qjkxbmwvz@startrek.websiteEnglish
      14·
      10 hours ago

      This type of thing is the nominal purpose of credit scores, I believe. (Whether they’re implemented effectively is another story…)

      • curiousaur@reddthat.comEnglish
        10·
        9 hours ago

        They didn’t say that’s why they rejected them. Maybe they’d be rejected either way, they just got to be happy about it.

    • defunct_punk@lemmy.worldEnglish
      323·
      13 hours ago

      Right? “Made me cry on a school trip” (for reasons that I’m sure we’re totally out of line on the teacher’s part and omitted just for brevity’s sake)

        • huppakee@lemm.eeEnglish
          1·
          9 hours ago

          Dawn, imagine being so ugly that there is no career path that is in line with your personality available.

          • Echo Dot@feddit.ukEnglish
            1·
            2 hours ago

            I’m thinking about the teachers I had in school and trying to work out what they would be doing if they couldn’t have been teachers.

            Some of them definitely would have worked in HR. Being the teacher was their access to a world of petty vindictiveness where they were absolute rulers and could do whatever they wanted.

    • Pacattack57@lemmy.worldEnglish
      6·
      7 hours ago

      Mortgage applications are not yes or no. There is a checklist that if met, gets approved. The name doesn’t even matter. Just basic credit bullshit.

    • bizarroland@fedia.io
      682·
      13 hours ago

      They didn’t say they rejected it out of revenge.

      Maybe the teacher was a shitty mortgage applicant with terrible credit and multiple foreclosures and the fact that they got to reject the application was just the cherry on top.

      • ray@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        19·
        12 hours ago

        I bet the real reason they were rejected is because their only income is a teacher’s salary. That’s not enough to afford a house these days

      • ch00f@lemmy.worldEnglish
        18·
        13 hours ago

        Yeah, I’m pretty sure there are some strict guidelines around mortgage application acceptance or rejection.

        • Thrashy@lemmy.worldEnglish
          1·
          4 hours ago

          Anti-discrimination laws in the US apply to discrimination based on what’s called a “protected class,” which essentially boils down to a small set of personal characteristics you’re not allowed to base a decision about a person on. For the purposes of housing, this includes race, skin color, and national origin, gender and sexual orientation, whether there are minor children in the family, and disability.

          “Being somebody who the loan officer has a deeply personal vendetta against” is not a protected class, and if the original OP did in fact reject a mortgage application on that basis they’d most likely be legally in the clear. Whether their employer would be happy to know about it is another story, but if it was anywhere near a coin-toss decision I doubt they’d ever have to justify themselves.

    • philpo@feddit.orgEnglish
      112·
      9 hours ago

      Depends on the circumstances. One might feel a bit smug when karma strikes back as long as one acts professionally. The teacher might have gotten rejected for absolute objective and normal reasons. Like thousands of people do.

      And after handling that professionally the poster can humanely feel smug and happy for a short moment in their otherwise likely stressful adult life. And that’s okay.

      By profession (emergency medicine with a stint in forensic mental health) I get into contact with some really bad people who have done really nasty things. Will I treat them as professionally as I treat every patient? Yes. But there are moments. Years ago I responded to a patient getting bitten in his ass by a police dog(as in the dog literally did bite a seizable piece of meat out of it)after fleeing a scene of a DUI stop(and punching a young police officer). At the same time as we arrive the detective superintendent arrives(as it is protocol here in these cases when someone gets injured by police directly). He is a fairly nice chap I went to school with - and who was relentlessly bullied by a guy a few grades above us. Like…really really bad…to a level that would land one in prison these days. Well, the world is small and guess who Mr. Dogfood was.

      Well. We did our job as professionally as we do it with everyone. But when the patient was handed over in hospital we had a good chuckle, cracked a few bad jokes somewhere no member of the public could hear us,asked each other how the respective wives were doing and went on with our workday. And that’s okay.

      • Tiger@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        3·
        7 hours ago

        Aye, must have been tempting to not clean that wound as well as you usually would have, but as soon as the thought crossed the mind you do it extra well just out of habit and doubling down on professionalism.

  • peregrin5@lemm.eeEnglish
    226·
    12 hours ago

    There are some teachers I had who were absolutely bad people, but honestly, they are teachers and you are not. You already have the best revenge.

    • andybytes@programming.devEnglish
      2·
      4 hours ago

      You’re going to send your kids to these schools. And as we start lowering the bar more and more, we’re going to have some very anti-social human beings around people’s children. And those children are going to become citizens in our society. Hurt people, hurt people, in which they shouldn’t. You should break the cycle and overthrow kings. There is a reason why things are the way they are. And if not aware, you can become a product of your environment.