Insert horrified looks when I tell me friends some “funny stories” from my childhood. :D

  • PugJesus@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    “Pug, you’re an incredibly smart kid, but you’re lazy.”

    Me, unable to remember homework, but acing every test and going above-and-beyond on any project with freeform requirements, leading to solid Bs and Cs despite half my assignments being a flat 0 for not being turned in: “Yeah.”

    … kind of wish someone looked a little deeper into the issue at the time.

    • MelodiousFunk@slrpnk.net
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      10 months ago

      Growing up neurodivergent in the 80s and not being disruptive enough to demand said deeper look may lead to:

      • Depression
      • Anxiety
      • Internalization of negative self-worth
      • Avoidance of formal higher education
      • Early burnout
      • Lifelong vague dissatisfaction
      • Disillusionment with the world and its systems
      • Being terminally online searching frantically for the next dopamine hit
    • SuzyQ@sh.itjust.works
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      10 months ago

      Same here. I didn’t get diagnosed until a couple of years ago but the signs were always there…

      Now I’m just biding my time until my youngest two get the diagnosis (my husband and I both are ADHD, and our other kids have already been diagnosed).

    • chatokun@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      10 months ago

      I got this but my parents did know I had ADHD. My mom didn’t want to put me on mods though, so I mostly just got weird stuff done to manage it. Like making me sit in the bathroom with no distractions, not allowed to leave until homework was done, among other things.

      ADHD still affects me in the workplace, but I’m fortunately in a position where it’s not too detrimental and my bosses both like me and understand my challenges.

    • Monument@lemmy.sdf.org
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      10 months ago

      My mom used to talk in code a lot for no fucking reason. She’d throw out the weirdest segues and irrelevant stories. When I (barely) graduated from a gifted kids high school, she jumped from telling me she was proud of me, to telling me that when my sister was little, all her teachers told her that she should be “tested” - heavily implying it was for learning disabilities - and added that “none of [her] babies are retarded.”
      2 things - that sister had dyscalculia and never got beyond an associates degree because she kept failing math. And it took until my mom died to figure out she was also talking about me - and every one of my siblings.

      When going through my mom’s things, I found out that she ignored the advice of several teachers and school counselors to get me tested for ADHD. Because she didn’t want a ‘damaged’ kid.