I remember you were worried about your ISP messing things up for you, hence the VPN. I would recommend creating a “Virtual Machine” that does all of your downloading to whatever hard drive you’re using. That VM can have proton installed. Then, on your regular computer (not within the VM), you can host Jellyfin with no VPN involved, making it accessible at 192.168.0.xx.

I think this hits your goals without needing to expose Jellyfin to the Internet. Plus it has minimal technical complexity. Your downloading traffic will be VPN protected, but Jellyfin will still be accessible to your local network.
edit: You can set up a password for Jellyfin, protecting it from your internal threats.

edit2: You can use letsencrypt to create a certificate that picky clients will accept. Buy a domain, any domain, and configure the “A record” to point to 192.168.0.xx (your Jellyfin IP). Then tell your client to go to whatever domain you get, like “luigiliterallydidnothingwrongplzfree.com”, then the client will have to use the internet to ask DNS what the IP address is, but after that, it will just use your local network.

edit3: Since you just have the raspberry PI, instead of using a Virtual Machine, you could have 2 separate SD cards. One only has the downloader and VPN installed, the other only has Jellyfin installed (no VPN). Then swap as needed.

Do you have more information on this, or a phrase to Google? The idea of zero traffic, zero petty crime sounds incredibly impressive

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I’d like to offer a reframe that’s been helpful to me, if I may.

The inconsistency will haunt you throughout your entire life, but only if you let it. Learning how to embrace and understand my emotions (instead of controlling [or suppressing] them) has been incredibly worthwhile to me. Therapy is a good avenue for this, but I understand it’s both expensive and not yet fully accepted by American culture. I also recommend the book The Tao of Fully Feeling, and here’s an excerpt: https://www.pete-walker.com/taoFullyFeeling.htm

I agree that straight up using Tailscale would likely be easier. But to answer your question, you’re looking to “push routes” because what you actually want to do is “route” but that’s kinda hard to Google haha. This looks maybe promising: https://forums.freebsd.org/threads/wireguard-how-to-route-another-subnet-through-it.89744/

This approach largely works, with the caveat that it then requires you to always be on the tailnet. If someone wants to connect locally AND via tailnet using the same URL, they’ll need to push/advertise routes (or do some other hacky thing)

Right now, I’ve only got the spoons to provide rough guidance, not details. In order to use non-tailnet IPs, you’ll need to configure your tailnet host to “advertise routes/push routes”. In more laymen terms, tailnet needs to say, “hey network client, I do know where 192.168.0.69 is! So I can route that request”. By default, each tailnet host only advertises the other tailnet hosts. Anything else fails.

Also, I really appreciate how detailed your question is!

I appreciate you (I’m too lazy to upvote)

To add, here’s an example of my OpenVPN config addition to ensure 192.168.3.* is accessible over VPN

verb 5
push "route 192.168.3.0 255.255.255.0 vpn_gateway"

I nominate this guy for Syrian Civil War expert

The therapy take is that this feeling comes about because you grew up in an environment where it wasn’t emotionally/physically safe for you to relax. Even as an adult with well managed/medicated ADHD, the subconscious parts of your brain are still trying to protect you, so no relaxation allowed. imo, this is extra common in ADHD folk because even parts of our own brains were mad at us for not having executive function.

In particularly bad cases, this can rise to the level of being C-PTSD. Feeling unable to relax is a big indicator that whatever is going on in your head needs to be addressed. Therapy is expensive, but there’s ways to get it covered by insurance, especially if you have an ADHD diagnosis.

Awesome! Thanks for the detailed update, and I’m glad it worked well for you!

Maybe sort by “date” instead of date & site?

Sounds like someone could use some more shut the fuck up Friday in their life 😘

I gotchu: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=uqo5RYOp4nQ

Kindness is also hard (and takes practice). I believe in both of our abilities to keep improving!