I had been planning on deleting my… I think 15 year old account? that I haven’t touched since baconreader stopped working but hadn’t pulled the trigger yet because I put so much work into those years of posts. But, you make a good point. I may need it for a thing someday.

#2. 100%

Yeah, me too. I just started on that med, and I found that I have to schedule my meals with reminders and then force myself to eat some of them, or I will go the entire day not remembering/wanting to eat.

And in my hair, promptly ripping a chunk of it out of my ponytail.

You’re right; I don’t have to be offended or take it personally. As such, I am neither offended, nor am I taking any of the comments in this thread personally. This is mostly because I’m addressing the issue at hand, not the person involved, so there is nothing to be offended by or about.

My point is that, you’re attacking the person, not their ideas. I get that it’s irritating to have someone question or throw a wrench into a post that was just supposed to be a good-old offensive time. Like I said, I’m no Musk lover, and I enjoy hating on him too - above bar or otherwise. But, OP brings up a good point by saying we should focus on the issues at hand as opposed to attacking what the person looks like. Also, since this is a public thread on Lemmy, if a person is willing to comment, it is obviously assumed that said comment then becomes the business of everyone on Lemmy (and, quite honestly, the entirety of the internet). Otherwise, why post at all? Is discourse not the point of this entire platform?

I don’t think OP is a “fuck head” simply because they want to draw attention to the actual issues instead of being focused on circle-jerking about peoples’ unspecified hate for Musk. I don’t think they are offended by the post, just that we should be a bit better about the focus of our discontent. I get where you’re coming from though, it’s a shitpost community, and circle-jerk hate is very satisfying. As said, I, personally, do enjoy it, but I’m not the greatest human being, and I sometimes like to give in to that less reasonable part of myself. If that’s the kind of thing that you want to post about, that’s fine. Do it! Just don’t be surprised when other people call you out on your logical fallacy. Otherwise, if you think there is no fallacy at play, then you may not actually have any counter-arguments to the ideas and claims that Musk makes, and that is where OP’s concern lies.

You seem like an intelligent person, so I doubt your only reasons for disliking Musk are simply corporeal. I think you should continue to have fun with shitposts like this while OP should continue to draw attention to the fact that, while this feels good, it’s not the actual issue that we’re dealing with, nor does it provide a solution.

I think it’s more about the ad hominem attack. I don’t love Elon Musk by any stretch of the imagination, but I don’t like him because of his ideas, beliefs, and the impact he’s having on my country. It has little to do with how he looks or the shape of his body. It’s his ideas and their implementation that people disagree with in actuality.

Attacking how he looks is just a lazy way of attacking someone without putting in the effort to refute the beliefs and ideas he has. Sensitivity isn’t what is bothering OP. It’s that we’re missing the point by focusing on blind dislike instead of attacking the reasons that generated the dislike.

I’m only focusing on your comment about language here, and yes I’m aware that it’s a rant, but I feel the need to add some additional info because it brings me calm when I get irritated about similar things. I’m in no way coming at you or your opinion because the changes in language, like the most recent usage of “cringe,” are irritating and bothersome to me also:

I remember when I was in college, my best friend was really irritated by everyone starting to say “real” as an intensifying adverb as opposed to “really.” For example, instead of saying “I was really bothered by that situation,” people began saying, “I was real bothered by that situation.” For the most part, this didn’t change the meaning of what was said, but it did change the connotation a bit. While both sentences mean that the person was very much bothered by the situation, one sounds like a serious confession of your feelings, and the other sounds like the situation was crazy enough that itself was the cause of the discomfort. It changes the flavor of the sentence by emphasizing something else. It also changes the formality of the language. I’m not going to use “real” like that in a formal setting, but it does fit better when telling a crazy story to my friends.

I had also been taking a linguistics/grammar class at the time this came up, so I had very recently been discussing descriptive vs prescriptive grammar and what makes a language a living language as opposed to a dead one. While my knowledge of linguistics is definitely limited, I did take away that language constantly changes and adds new variations on meanings and expressions all the time. That’s not a bad thing! Without growth, our language dies. Our language adapts and twists and develops with or without our individual consent. But the vocabulary of the many is what shapes language. As much as it drives me nuts, if the majority agrees that this is the way we say something now, it now becomes correct in terms of lexicon, grammar, and usage. Otherwise, we would still be referring to “selfies” as “photos you take of yourself.”

I now consider these situations to be simply the growing pains of language. While they can be irritating, especially to those who learned to do things in a very specific way, they are necessary for the survival of our language. As much as I don’t love the idea of saying “cringe” as an adjective, it is the younger people’s way of saying “cringeworthy.” Once that is mainstream, it has then been added to the overall language’s lexicon. We either change with the times of language or risk being left in its dust. None of our lives are long enough that people will be unable to understand our version of the “old” language, but I think it’s important to try to grow along with the language. This is, at the very least, so that we can understand it, but more importantly, so we can appreciate the newest flavor of our language, even though it may be an acquired taste.

It’s easiest for my brain to put it in the perspective that I should appreciate that things are different because the very difference that bothers me is a sign of growth, not decay. The Guardian is just keeping up with the times. Maybe they’re trying a bit too hard to be hip, but I get it. It’s a case of grow or die. Should they be better than that? Probably, but I’m not sure why you’re expecting that of The Guardian. I don’t associate them with using the most professional word choice.

Most importantly, to end the story about my best friend, I began using “real” as an adverb often which started out as a way to piss off my friend just a little bit, but ended with me wanting to change as the language changed so I could experience the beauty of its growth.

I think it looks legit. I’ve had several different cheeses that look like this, especially aged ones. Usually, I don’t buy that big of a chunk of the wheel, but it looks right to me.

As a woman who can’t pee while standing, or at least in a way that prevents pee from getting everywhere, I very much appreciate my winter, indoor plumbing for the everyman and all the people who make it happen. And when it’s the holidays, and I’m drinking, I appreciate it even more. Cold outhouse seats suuuuuuck.

Cheers to remembering how much worse it could be and how the little things we take for granted do matter.

At a minimum $10,000 a year. The COBRA option I was given to continue my health insurance after leaving my previous employer, was $1,500 per month, so $18,000 per year, and that was on the low cost end for relatively crappy coverage. I’ve seen them cost $2k-$3k per month. Of course, that’s just to have the insurance and doesn’t include copays, deductibles, or out of pocket costs.

I’m not disagreeing with you at all; I’m just always astounded by how much we have to pay to receive so little.

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Yeah, I live near a state park named “Bong.” To be fair, it was named after a person. There is also a Wang Town in Minnesota.

I’ve never seen a truer post.

What are bakery gloves? I’ve never heard of that before, and Google was not helpful.

Ditto. Then, when we went back to “normal,” I felt like I had to pretend to hate it because everyone else hated it so much. For me, it felt like freedom and relief.

You definitely have a point, and there are definitely women like the one you described in the world. Men 100% deserve to be treated with equality and respect. I’m sorry that you had that experience with your former partner. It’s a garbage, disrespectful move from someone who is supposed to have your back.

But your point does ignore the fact that a majority of women have been raised by parents and by society to be subservient to men. The person who posted this originally wanted to know why women aren’t taught how to treat men, but the fact is that we are. Constantly. Whether we want to be taught or not. Most of us have learned to do this so deeply that it’s second nature. Most of us don’t even remember learning it because that’s just the way that it is.

This is for a wide variety of reasons, but most of it boils down to men having control over the world for thousands of years and women trying to find the best way to survive and occasionally excel in a world made for and by men. Remember that we used to be (and often still are) considered property. It’s taken a really long time to get as far as we (women) have. My sex has only been able to vote in my country for 100 years. That’s not a lot of time to make major changes in public perception and major societal shifts. We’ve grown a lot, but these shifts come with growing pains.

If we lived in a world where women have to be taught how to treat a male partner well, that means that society isn’t doing the teaching anymore, and while yes, women should treat men with equivalent respect, it’s still a huge improvement societally that women don’t develop ingrained subservience. The woman that you previously dated sounds like part of those growing pains. Some people are always going to take things too far because the line had not previously been defined (even though the golden rule should be pretty common sense).

Conversely, men often have to be taught this because society doesn’t do the teaching. Society is cool with men following the status quo.

Does this give a woman a solid reason to treat another human like trash, no matter their gender? No. This is the big reason why I think feminism is so important. People hear that term and think it means pro-women only, but what it really means is equality for all genders. Full equality should be the goal even if it ends up hurting women a little. For example, one of the few privileges women have that men don’t have is in the courtroom. Women tend to have better outcomes because of biases about our weakness and innocence. Feminism would be working to dismantle something like that even if it gives women an advantage.

Equality is important, but understanding women’s historical growth and struggles is important, too. Women have been taught ad nauseum how to treat men well, but some women are going to make different choices. At the end of the day, I agree with you. I just want people to remember how hard the struggle was for women to get here, understand how far we still have to go to gain real equality, and respect the societal pressures that we deal with every day.