Whenever I talk or interact with people I feel I don’t talk like a “normal” person would nor I feel other people’s feelings towards me are positive.

Their interactions with me seem always cold and superficial and it’s not their fault. I told that to my psychologist, even asking whether I may be autistic or suffer from other conditions. She said I don’t, but heavy neglect affected me when I was a kid and it’s not possible for me to become like others, I can just work on myself. The problem is that I don’t know how to work on this. I really wish for somebody to point out evey mistake I make when I talk to them so I can know what I’m doing wrong.

Sorry it’s probably just venting but I genuinely got tired of that.

  • kamenLady.@lemmy.world
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    9 days ago

    I think i feel the same way about interacting with people. Didn’t they point out any ways to work on yourself or at least recommended a next step? I would expect this as the main outcome of going to a psychologist.

    I ask, because i never went to a psychologist.

    I didn’t suffer from neglect, but until i was 15, i had lived in 4 different countries. We actually kept rotating those countries all 2 years.

    On one side this made me a very open minded person and it was an experience i enjoyed, but on the other hand, i think it made me miss the step of creating meaningful, deep relationships in life.

    Everything i knew was living in constant flux. Meet and say goodbye again.

    From my 30s on i noticed others relationships and that people interact in a way I’m not used to or know how to deal with.

    I also don’t know how to work on myself with this.