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  • Alteon@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    This is like…a normal thing that everyone goes through though.

    I’m noticing a very common trend for this sub…posting about very normal, common, everyday things that people go through and just blaming it on ADHD.

    Other extremely common things that normal people go through:

    • “Lost glasses” by holding them.
    • Walk in a room and forgot what you were looking for.
    • Opening fridge wanting something specific to eat, and immediately not wanting that thing afterwards.
    • Trying to fix something, but get distracted by having to fix something else before I fix said thing.
    • Stopping a chore, because another chore should be finished first…and then starting yet another chore because that should be finished first (i.e. wanting to clean room, decide to change bed in the middle of it, realize that you have no sheets, so go do laundry, etc down the rabbit hole).
    • Going to the store for specific thing, leave with 12 things that are not that thing. Realize when you get home.
    • Saying you have to go, but starting up another conversation with friend numerous times.
    • Start chore, think you can do it more efficiently, check internet, realize you spent about an hour on the phone. And have yet to actually research said thing.
    • Say you’re going to bed at a reasonable time, and then realize it’s 2am like 5 minutes later.

    Like… literally everyone does something like this. Especially when your tired. I bet like half the people here are just chronically tired and don’t even realize it.

      • Telorand@reddthat.com
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        3 months ago

        What’s kind of lost in your sentiment, but it’s nonetheless necessary to understand, is that ADHD experiences exist on a spectrum, as do normative ones. We are the ones who draw the boxes around biology and decide that “five times a week is normal but six is not.”

        The key part of ADHD that makes it distinct is the final D(isorder). Disorder means it’s a behavior or tendency that’s causing disruption or otherwise preventing you from living in a way that makes you feel safe, whole, or stable. It brings disorder instead of order.

        So while I agree that frequency can point to ADHD, my SO experiences this particular phenomenon about as much as I do, and I have high confidence that they do not have ADHD. Sometimes, it’s just a common human experience.

        • Stamets@lemmy.worldOP
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          3 months ago

          It’s kind of astonishing that you so closely grasp the point and then fling it as far away as possible.

          We are the ones who draw the boxes around biology and decide that “five times a week is normal but six is not.”

          So while I agree that frequency can point to ADHD, my SO experiences this particular phenomenon about as much as I do, and I have high confidence that they do not have ADHD. Sometimes, it’s just a common human experience.

          Then how do you have any right speaking on behalf of so many other people who do have ADHD when you’re basing this anecdotally?

          Astounding you’ll say “lost in your sentiment”, say ADHD is a spectrum, and then flatly say this cannot fall within it.

    • RagnarokOnline@programming.dev
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      3 months ago

      I dunno bro/broette — you should talk to the other people in your life about how often they experience the last few on your list. You may find you’re one of us.

    • _____@lemm.ee
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      3 months ago

      I describe ADHD as a purely executive disorder that harms your progress/goals. Which is why I agree with your statement as all those claims don’t really harm an overarching goal.

      People with ADHD do things like frequently forget their driver’s license or frequently forgetting their office key card. It affects their day to day lives in more noticeable ways than just “whoops I put my thing in the pile of clothes, now ive lost it”

        • Stamets@lemmy.worldOP
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          3 months ago

          Typical whinefest of “UM ACTUALLY THIS ISN’T ADHD SPECIFIC”. Bit more preachy than most given it was multiple paragraphs long.

      • No_@lemm.ee
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        3 months ago

        Rule 1 for mods should be to off yourself if you censor someone you didn’t like.

    • pHr34kY@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      Whether it’s ADHD or chronic fatigue, the same stims will fix it.

      That may be bad because if the treatment works, people assume the diagnosis is correct.

    • Chakravanti@monero.town
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      3 months ago

      Just maybe that isn’t literally “everyone” and that “everyone” is rather a certain fraction with this set and is more of a gradient higher in occurances.

      You, incidentally, didn’t mention the key aspects. Obsessive focuses and focus methods used obsessively are kind of not in there anywhere. Also that these obsessive tendencies offput all the occurances that you described.

      The relation therein is something we are familiar with. Furthermore, that those without such obsessive tendencies don’t relate over the listed occurances as some kind of frequency.

      Fact of the matter is that there are a good set of factors that this “disorder” is defined about. You’re drivelling about the frustrations we have. Note that they are not using these frustrations as the definition of the disorder itself by as the byproduct of suffering from the disorder’s key elements.